How (not to) to Grow a Garden With Your Kids

Spring. Oh, how we wait for you to arrive with such long-held anticipation! In the giddiness of seeing the buds on the branches and our grass turn from brown to green, I am tricked each and every year into imagining I somehow play a role in this. I look out my window and imagine the garden I will plant, the flowers I will grow, the beauty that will be my backyard.

I picture me and my kids all wearing cute gardening boots with matching gloves diligently plowing and planting and pulling weeds as the birds and butterflies land gently on our shoulders. I can almost see and taste our harvest, lettuce and tomatoes and peppers that we have grown ourselves crafted into delicious salads that we eat on the back deck looking out over the masterpiece I am queening over.

What a load of crap my friends. I forget each and every year that I have the world’s brownest thumb. No Pinterest board or plant sale or advice from my green-thumbed family and friends can change my DNA. Gardening is not a gift that is in my basket. So I feel I am only qualified only to give you advice about how not to garden with your kids. If you are like me pay special attention to number 12. There may still be time to save yourself.

sam with dandelion 2

See? Weeds are super fun, no garden needed.

How Not to Plant a Garden

  1. Look at Pinterest for about eleventy billion years and pin a myriad of awesome garden plans. Ignore all information about zones and sun exposure and planting times. Instead, pick the prettiest stuff, print off your plan and head to Home Depot or really the closest places that sell plants, it’s all the same and we don’t have all day.
  2. Once there, find everything you can on your list. If you can’t find something just pick the plant that looks the most similar or is the same color because it is totally safe to assume if the flowers are the same color you can just plop it in. Don’t ask for help because those experts can really burst your Pinterest bubble by advising you against the super pretty purple plant with the fun sounding name. You’ve got this.
  3. Be sure to bring your children. Let everyone pick out as many veggies as they would like to plant. You can squeeze in way more plants than those darn labels are describing. No one really measures how far apart they plant things right? The more the merrier. Your kids will be super excited about helping you, but may also spend most of the time begging for you to put both a fountain and a goldfish pond with a waterfall in your yard. Assure them that next year you can move up to that level once you have your garden conquered.
  4. Bring all plants to the backyard and set them where they will eventually be planted. Sit back and relax for a bit because that was HARD WORK. Maybe have a glass of wine. No rush right? You’ll get to the actual planting in a jiff.
  5. Realize 2 weeks have gone by and everything is still in pots. Get a little panicky that things are turning brown. Send the kids out to start digging. Drop stuff in holes and cover with dirt. If a plant is sticking up too far because the hole wasn’t deep enough just mound some dirt around that guy. Water everything. Your work is done. High five the kids and go for a walk.
  6. Look out the window and admire your work.
  7. Look out the window a week later and notice there is other stuff growing with your plants. Realize it is time to weed. Sigh.
  8. Pull weeds. Pull weeds. Pull weeds. Ask kids to help. Yell a bit about how gardening is FUN and they wanted to do this didn’t they? You bought them cute gardening gloves (that are now lost) and tools (also lost) so they need to help you darn it! Watch them weed and weep and then replant the things they pulled that were not weeds.
  9. Repeat number 8 to infinity.
  10. Go on vacation and come back to holy hell in your backyard. The tomatoes have taken over the neighborhood. The lettuce has been eaten by the bunnies and mice right down to nubs. You have no idea what herbs you planted anymore so you taste things and realize you have for sure eaten some weeds. Pick the veggies that don’t have teeth marks, which are barely enough for an individual salad and try and look on the bright side. Your garden is feeding God’s creatures. Those creatures are just not your family.
  11. Completely give up and let the plants run amok. July is pretty close to Fall after all. Be grateful you live in Wisconsin where you only have to put up with this madness for a short period of time.
  12. Vow to never make a garden again.

Friends, my hope is that I have gotten to you in time. This year there will be no amazing could-make-a-salad-out-of-it veggie garden in our backyard this year and no plant will go into the ground that is not cleared by an expert. I will bask in the free tomatoes from green-thumbed friends and buy my lettuce from the farmer’s market. It is time to cut my losses and stick with what I am really good at, which clearly is not this.

My friends here’s to that moment when you realize the picture in your head of what your life should look like isn’t the boss of you.  Can cut out what isn’t serving you. Do more of what brings you joy. Make time to use the gifts God gave you. And spend more time sitting on the deck with that glass of wine, admiring the work Mother Nature is doing all on her own.

sam with dandelion 2

Amy

2 Comments

  1. Anne P. on May 18, 2016 at 10:10 am

    Hysterical and oh so true. My children are grown up now, but we went through the same thing. We went so far as to build a raised garden bed with railroad ties. Just in case anyone’s wondering, bunnies can get up into raised garden beds, and weeds grow there, too.

    I had heard somewhere gardening was supposed to be therapeutic and relaxing, good for body, mind and soul, so we put in ginormous perennial beds, framing our entire lot. I now look out at my yard every spring with dread thinking about the weed pulling I will have to do throughout the summer and the 14 yards of mulch I will have to lay. Do you know what 14 yards of mulch looks like?!

    • Amy on May 18, 2016 at 12:21 pm

      Yes! THE MULCH!!! I totally forgot about the mulch! For a couple years our awesome neighbors and their strapping young sons would order too much mulch and come and spread it in our yard for us. It was a dream come true. They have since moved so the jig is up. 14 yards of mulch….between that and the bunnies that can jump the ties I will be praying for you!

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