What Your Kids Really Think of You {Life through Sam Colored Glasses}

“Mom! Look! It’s the most persect car ever!”

(Not a typo, Sam pronounces “perfect” as “persect”. While we are on the topic does anyone else feel like crying when their babies start to pronounce words RIGHT? I still haven’t gotten over Ellie switching from “jum” to “gum” and she’s 14. I love little kid speak with all my heart.)

This from Sam as we are driving past our local Starbucks. I look at the drive-thru and see a shiny red sports car at the window, which I assume is the “perfect” car he is referring to. It looks just like a Hot Wheels he has in his collection.

“That red one, Sam? It’s pretty cool!”

“No, THAT one! It’s dad’s!”

A quick glance reveals that yes indeed there is a car just like dad’s and it looks nothing like the shiny red sports car. It is exactly like our old tan van we bought used 12 years ago when my second daughter was born. 140,000 miles of fun have been put on that van and it shows in the dents and rust and coffee stained interior.

But to Sam…the most perfect car ever because he thinks it is his dad’s.

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(photo of our actual van above…we can talk about the wrecked basketball hoop in another post. All I have to say is BOYS)

We often say Sam has been carved out of a giant chunk of love. He came to us full of big energy and loving emotions and crazy stories of what he did in heaven before God sent him to our family (It’s a whole thing). I think he is the kid who has come to teach us. We have learned a little bit about perspective and what is really important since he has arrived. There are a 1001 ways he, and all our kids, have shown us this, but since I am slow on the uptake with many life lessons, it seems God has wired little Sammy to really drive a few things home for his old mom.

About a week after the van incident, I awoke one morning to Sam curled up next to me. I am pretty sure I haven’t slept through the night in the 4 years this kid has been on the planet. But seeing that little face, and as he is the grand finale kid, I have a different perspective on how fleeting it all is. Most mornings I am able to suck it up and appreciate that he is still little enough to snuggle. On this morning he greeted me – with my morning breath and giant humidity hair and makeup all under my eyes – with a sweet, “Mommy, you have the most persect face ever.”

Now, in the morning (and let’s face it really even on my best day) I am totally no shiny red sports car, but it doesn’t matter. To him I have the most PERFECT FACE EVER. Wow…that kind of love is mind blowing and completely humbling.

But you guys, this is how our kids see us. We all have the most perfect face ever!! Because we are theirs and that is all they need. Our people love us just the way we are and since Sam has said this I’m starting to see it everywhere.

I see it in the fact Lily loves when I am not wearing make up, but instead am wearing my old sunflower pajama bottoms because this means I am not going to leave the house.

I see it in the way all 5 of my kids never want us to move or change a thing in our house because it is our home, even with the dirty carpeting and not-Pinterest-perfect kitchen and the giant pile of papers I cannot seem to escape that are always on my desk.

I see it in the pick up line at school as a classmate of Kate’s makes a bee-line for their grandparent at the end of the day, picking that one special face out of the crowd because that face is home.

I bet you can see it too, in your kids or really in any of your people. You are all they need, even if today your version of parenting looks like our rusty old tan van. And all those things we are always thinking we have to change…our hair, our clothes, our kitchen cabinets, our way of parenting these small souls…they are all already good enough, for our kids and for our God.

We are loved just as we are…we are already good enough. When in doubt look at yourself through your kids eyes, you will love this as much as I love being looked at through Sam colored glasses. You will remember that you are someone’s most “persect” face ever.

And really, who could ask for more?

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Taking a Happy Meal to a whole new level….

 

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14 Comments

  1. Dana on September 17, 2015 at 1:21 am

    Goosebumps! Thanks for the perspective! Don’t think I’ve ever met Sam in person, but I adore him!

    • Amy on September 17, 2015 at 2:27 am

      Our boys would so be buds if we can ever get their paths to cross.:-)

  2. Nancy on September 17, 2015 at 1:48 am

    Love this Amy! “Enough” is my new mantra. Although I’ve never been satisfied with my house and always wanting to update it, but once my daughter told me she loved it cause this is where she grew up & has lots of great memories, I like it a whole lot better! As far as liking “kid speak”…I just don’t have it in me!! A professional hazard!

    • Amy on September 17, 2015 at 2:26 am

      I thought of you while posting this after your post last week. It’s a hard lesson, I’m happier now that I have learned it for sure! And your comment about kid speak cracks me up! Perspective!

  3. Sara on September 17, 2015 at 2:11 am

    Wiping the tears from my eyes as I am typing this. So true even having teens in my house. Thanks for sharing. Love reading your blog!

    • Amy on September 17, 2015 at 2:25 am

      Yes Sara! True forever I think…thanks my friend!

  4. Judy Dillenburg on September 17, 2015 at 2:36 am

    Love this. I still miss making “nacks” for M who is now 9 🙂

    • Amy on September 18, 2015 at 3:43 am

      So cute!!

  5. Molly on September 17, 2015 at 7:36 pm

    Awww… Love you Sammy! As Gabe would say, this is how we are ‘pposed to be! That is Gabe speak. He just can’t get supposed. ?

    • Amy on September 18, 2015 at 3:43 am

      Love it Molly!!!

  6. Jessica on September 17, 2015 at 8:04 pm

    Oh my gosh, Amy! Totally made me cry. I love this so much and it’s what we mommies need to hear. Thank you! (Plus I love hearing about my sweet nephews and nieces!) Also, Caedmon says, “blanquet” for blanket and I grieved when Bailey said cupcake instead of pupcake.

    • Amy on September 18, 2015 at 3:43 am

      Thanks Jessica! And pupcake might be the cutest thing ever!!

  7. Annette on September 18, 2015 at 11:53 am

    So well written! A truly great perspective on how kids really are our “teachers” in life!!

    • Amy on September 19, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Yes! I actually never realized how much I didn’t know until I had kids!:-)

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